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It's All About Perception

 

by Dee Dee B.


Happiness is entirely a state of mind.  It's not dependent on anything that happens or exists within our life.  It's solely dependent on our mental perceptions.

 

To achieve a happy mental state, we must give up trying to control what cannot be controlled.  We must acknowledge that we have limited control over most things.  However, we do have control over our reactions to circumstances and situations.  We can decide how to react to what happens to us.  We're in complete control of our reactions.  We can react positively and create the most positive outcome possible from any negative event.  Or we can choose to despair over the hand we're dealt.  We can choose to see the best in the worst of situations – or we can see only the negatives.  We can notice the best in people, or we can focus on their deficits.  We can focus on the most positive things in our lives, or we can focus on the negative. 

 

Thus, to be happy, we must choose to appreciate what is good in our life’s situations, circumstances and those we share our life with.  And we must give up our attempts to control externals; it's necessary to accept things (and people, and ourselves)  the way they are.  In summary, a key to happiness is to accept everything and everyone (including ourselves) as they are, and to appreciate what is good about the way things/people are.  Of course, improvements might be possible and sometimes should be made.  But where improvement isn’t immediately available or practical – or won’t provide an enduring, true enhancement - it's best for us to deal with what we’re dealt, and enjoy what we have. 

 

Choose to be happy!  Why not?  The alternative is to not be.  Why choose that?  

 

 

 

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